I have this friend who started her
blog right after I did, and good grief has it received a lot of hits, know why?
It’s because she writes for herself. She
is candid and sometimes overly honest about her views LOL Her blog is so far
full of stories about her daughters, her hubby, and her struggles from the last
few years. She even has thrown in a
couple of yummy recipes for good measure.
While she is getting lots of internet traffic for her writings (she even
had international site do article on her) she is also getting LOTS OF
It is absurd. She has people she knows personally, people
she knows just online, and then complete strangers judging her actions without
truly knowing her. She is a happy
person, with lovely daughters, and a husband who spoils her rotten, yet
yesterday people decided to say she was obviously unhappy due to her
writings??? That is crazy. I know her and her family, and I know she is
not unhappy, yet strangers were trying to say she is depressed and
miserable. That irritated me. Not for her, she is handling it fine, she
knows she is not unhappy, what irked me is people who think it is ok to judge
People have no right to be judgmental
of anybody. I have been judged my who
life, it has at times made me depressed or even angry, because they did not
take the time to know the real me.
People tend to make assumptions based on their idea of what others
should be, instead of seeing the person as they really are. I am shy and quiet, yet others view that as
unfriendly. I try to think before I
speak, so that makes others feel as if I am meek, I am simply just trying to
not say hurtful things. Words can hurt
so much more than people realize.
Physical damage heals, mental and emotional damage never truly goes
away. I can forgive a great deal, but
that doesn’t mean I have forgotten the pain.
People need to stop judging other people. People are judged by size, color, race,
intelligence, gender, sexual preference, religion, the list goes on and on and
on… To me there is only ONE JUDGE and
when I die I want my judgement to go well.
OK ranting a bit there (is my blog so I can) anyway those who judge
should learn to try to look past the obvious and instead look for
understanding. I have had many patients
and families who were a challenge to deal with, but if I take a minute and
think and try to put myself in their shoes I might act the same way. I would be certainly protective of my family
if they were ill or I snappy if I was in pain. If I was overwhelmed and scared,
I might try and micromanage small details, just to have a sense of control over
People tend to look for
opportunities to judge others on the wrongs they are actually guilty of committing,
it gives them a sense of its ok. Saying
look at her and how bad she is behaving, I am not as bad as she is. Just throw other adjectives in there like
stupid, mean, ugly, you get the idea.
Judging others does not justify yourself. Comes down to this, unless you are an Olympic
judge STOP JUDGING PEOPLE.
none of these pics or quotes are mine, I just liked the images and sayings.