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They melt my heart |
When people ask me if I have kids, I say yes I
have two. Then they ask how old are
they. I say my son is twenty-one and my
daughter is seven. Then the same
response every time. “Wow! That’s a big age difference” ok sometimes different
words are used, but the idea is the same.
They are shocked at the fourteen year age gap. Sometimes they ask if my
daughter was a surprise, and I say nope she was totally planned, and she
was. In truth my son was not planned,
but he was THE BEST thing that ever happened to me. He inspired me to go to
nursing school, and to keep going even when school was hard. He was my reason
to never give up. I adore him, he made
being a mom totally fun and easy. He was
smart, cute, mischievous, playful, adventurous, and he did what I told him
to!!! He never argued with me. He tricked me LOL made parenting a piece of
cake. I always wanted two kids, but
after my divorce that wasn’t happening. Then time passed, and my son and I were
so close, that bringing another baby into our duo seemed sort of mean in my
mind. He had me all to himself, he got
all my attention, he got all the toys, he was my number one priority. I did not want to take that away from
him. If I had another child right after
him I would not have felt that way, he would not have felt threatened (at least
in my mind) he would have just had a playmate.
I waited too long though. It just
did not seem right to uproot his life just to have another baby. I wanted him to have a happy childhood. It was already full of drama with custody
issues, and him having to go back and forth between his dad and me, money was
tight, and I was stressed a lot. Being a
single parent was not fun at all.
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She was scared, he stayed close :) |
So whatever I could do to make his world
better I did, I wanted to give him as much of me as a good mom. For thirteen years he was my best
friend. Then teenage years, and as is
totally normal he started pulling away, becoming a grown up. I thought then
would be a good time to have another child.
My son no longer needed me 100% he was ready to become his own man. I, on
the other hand, still needed a kid to play with LOL so I talked to him, and
explained how he would always be loved, but if he was ok with it I would like
to add to the family. I was not
surprised when he said it was fine with him. I told you he was awesome. He only had two conditions. No diaper duty
for him and no Barbies LOL he might have changed a couple of wet diapers in an
emergency, but there has never been a Barbie doll in my daughter’s hand LOL.
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Helping her pick perfect pumpkin |
So that is
why the huge age gap. It was so my son could be spoiled as much as possible,
and then my daughter could be spoiled. It
has worked out great for us. I love the
age gap, and having two completely different personality kids. With my son I got to do all sorts of boy
activities. We played with Pokemon, Digimon,
Bionicle, and Power Rangers. Disney trips we met the Power Rangers, Winnie the
Pooh, and his favorite Lilo & Stitch. Colors were blue and green, foods were no fruits
or veggies, only pizza, hot wings, and lots of ketchup LOL he did taekwondo (even
was state champion one year) and played video games. With my girl I get to do
girly stuff. She likes stuffed animals, My Little Pony, Shopkins, and
princesses. Colors are pink and purple, I get to put her in dresses with
ribbons or flowers in her long blond hair. Disney trips we met Minnie Mouse,
Daisy Duck, and all the princesses. She loves to eat salads and fruits. She
also loves swimming and dancing. Where he was quiet and easy going, she is talkative
and always wanting to be entertained. They are completely different.
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My Heroes |
They get
along great, no jealousy or fighting for my attention. He is very protective of her, and is always
buying her little gifts. I try to make
sure he doesn’t see her as a burden on him in any way. Lately they have been spending more time
together. I think because she is finally
able to do stuff he likes. He will take
her to movies or swimming, and they go Pokémon hunting together. They watch
funny YouTube videos and play with the cats. She loves to draw him pictures,
and just hang out with him. He has even gotten her to like spicy food LOL you
have no idea how happy I am to see those two having fun together. They might be years apart, but they are close
because of love.
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