|They melt my heart|
When people ask me if I have kids, I say yes I have two. Then they ask how old are they. I say my son is twenty-one and my daughter is seven. Then the same response every time. “Wow! That’s a big age difference” ok sometimes different words are used, but the idea is the same. They are shocked at the fourteen year age gap. Sometimes they ask if my daughter was a surprise, and I say nope she was totally planned, and she was. In truth my son was not planned, but he was THE BEST thing that ever happened to me. He inspired me to go to nursing school, and to keep going even when school was hard. He was my reason to never give up. I adore him, he made being a mom totally fun and easy. He was smart, cute, mischievous, playful, adventurous, and he did what I told him to!!! He never argued with me. He tricked me LOL made parenting a piece of cake. I always wanted two kids, but after my divorce that wasn’t happening. Then time passed, and my son and I were so close, that bringing another baby into our duo seemed sort of mean in my mind. He had me all to himself, he got all my attention, he got all the toys, he was my number one priority. I did not want to take that away from him. If I had another child right after him I would not have felt that way, he would not have felt threatened (at least in my mind) he would have just had a playmate. I waited too long though. It just did not seem right to uproot his life just to have another baby. I wanted him to have a happy childhood. It was already full of drama with custody issues, and him having to go back and forth between his dad and me, money was tight, and I was stressed a lot. Being a single parent was not fun at all.
So whatever I could do to make his world
better I did, I wanted to give him as much of me as a good mom. For thirteen years he was my best
friend. Then teenage years, and as is
totally normal he started pulling away, becoming a grown up. I thought then
would be a good time to have another child.
My son no longer needed me 100% he was ready to become his own man. I, on
the other hand, still needed a kid to play with LOL so I talked to him, and
explained how he would always be loved, but if he was ok with it I would like
to add to the family. I was not
surprised when he said it was fine with him. I told you he was awesome. He only had two conditions. No diaper duty
for him and no Barbies LOL he might have changed a couple of wet diapers in an
emergency, but there has never been a Barbie doll in my daughter’s hand LOL.
|She was scared, he stayed close :)|
|Helping her pick perfect pumpkin|
They get along great, no jealousy or fighting for my attention. He is very protective of her, and is always buying her little gifts. I try to make sure he doesn’t see her as a burden on him in any way. Lately they have been spending more time together. I think because she is finally able to do stuff he likes. He will take her to movies or swimming, and they go Pokémon hunting together. They watch funny YouTube videos and play with the cats. She loves to draw him pictures, and just hang out with him. He has even gotten her to like spicy food LOL you have no idea how happy I am to see those two having fun together. They might be years apart, but they are close because of love.